At Toronto Relationship Clinic, we provide online forensic psychotherapy for men in Ontario, Canada, who are struggling with harmful sexual behaviours or probelematic sexual urges, or who have sexually offended, whether hands-on or technology-assisted. We specialize in sexual offences involving minors. We recognize that seeking help can be an incredibly daunting step, especially when you are grappling with feelings of shame, fear, or loneliness. We provide a confidential and compassionate space to safely and effectively address these issues. Our fully virtual, community-based, comprehensive forensic treatment program addresses sexual harm, including child sexual abuse, and complex trauma through a transformative justice lens for whole-person healing and survivor-oriented relational justice.
We offer life-changing treatment for people who are facing criminal charges. Some examples of offences that we work with include the following:
Child Pornography (e.g. Making, Distributing, Possessing, or Accessing)
Child Sexual Abuse
Sexual Interference
Invitation to Sexual Touching
Sexual Exploitation
Making Sexually Explicit Material Available to a Child
Luring a Child
Incest
Sexual Assault
Voyeurism
…and other sexual offences
“Addressing sexual harm starts with acknowledging you have a problem and accepting the right kind of help.”
Toronto Relationship Clinic’s forensic treatment program for addressing sexual harm is a focused course of treatment for adult men who have sexually offended, whether or not criminal charges have been laid or legal proceedings are underway. Drawing from Interpersonal Neurobiology, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Narrative Therapy, and Collaborative Language Systems, our program combines intensive process-oriented psychotherapy with targeted psychoeducation and rigorous group programs. It adapts an integrative, evidence-informed, systems-oriented, and trauma-specific approach to addressing problematic sexual behaviours. This trifold program is highly structured and comprehensive, and requires a serious commitment. It includes three integral treatment components:
individual forensic psychotherapy sessions
individual forensic psychoeducation sessions
forensic group therapy
The 6 Stages of Progress
Our program addresses the cognitive, emotional, relational, and systemic factors that drive offending behaviours. It is an experiential, generative, psychodynamic process organized around six stages of progress:
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Stage 1 includes an extensive preliminary intake assessment followed by taking an account of offences, reviewing disclosure, and completing a Statement of Acceptance. Acceptance is not seen as a milestone to be achieved but rather an ongoing process that only begins with writing the Statement. Individuals learn about guilt, shame, and remorse. They also start to recognize and identify patterns of power and control in their sexual offending cycle, which they will examine and interrogate more fully in subsequent stages. As part of Stage 1 tasks, individuals are required to read On Repentance and Repair by Danya Ruttenberg, and attend the group program Addressing Sexual Behaviours 1 (ASB1).
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In Stage 2, individuals are challenged to shift focus away from their own losses and reckon with the serious harm they caused and the ongoing impact of that harm over time for primary, secondary, and tertiary victims. They learn to accept the consequences and implications of their offending behaviour. They become more aware of emotional states and psychosomatic responses while also learning to recognize and interrupt negative patterns via critical-compassionate reflection. Individuals gain greater insight into their unique relational and sexual challenges and their pathways to offending. Basic psychoeducation is provided with respect to consent, boundaries, body autonomy, and healthy sexuality.
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Stage 3 addresses victim empathy, perspective-taking, disclosure, and healthy communication. Part of this process is identifying and deconstructing individual barriers to victim empathy. This stage uses letter writing and narrative tools to facilitate learning, encourage vulnerability, and adopt a victim-centred perspective. Individuals are required to write letters to and from their victim(s). These letters are empathy-building exercises only and are not typically sent to victims. As part of Stage 3 tasks, individuals are also required to attend the group program Addressing Sexual Behaviours 2 (ASB2), which focuses on victim empathy.
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Stage 4 of the treatment program is focused on accountability from a transformative justice lens and includes developing a robust relapse prevention plan. Individuals identify their predisposing, precipitating, perpetuating, and protective factors. They are asked to identify and establish a circle of support and accountability to support their continued success and long-term risk management and mitigation. As part of Stage 4 tasks, individuals create their Statement of Accountability and are also required to attend the group program Addressing Sexual Behaviours 3 (ASB3), which focuses on accountability. Individuals are asked to invite their accountability team to a joint session to discuss a path forward that prioritizes safety for all.
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Stage 5 involves the conscientious integration of new learning and new habits into daily life and relationships. As old negative patterns are disrupted and new healthy patterns emerge, individuals can move towards safety, balance, purpose, and planning for future success. The critical aspect of this stage in one's process is making meaning out of one's experiences and carefully considering their options for reparations. As part of this stage of the process, individuals are asked to read The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks.
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Stage 6 addresses maintenance and ongoing risk mitigation. It involves recognizing that progress and growth must be continual and nonlinear pursuits. The focus of Stage 6 is sustaining gains over a lifetime, avoiding pitfalls, mitigating risks, practicing accountability, abiding by their relapse prevention plan, and strengthening protective factors. As part of Stage 6 tasks, individuals are strongly encouraged to attend the ongoing maintenance group Mutual Accountability and Support Circle (MASC).
“...facing the harm that I caused is an act of profound optimism. It is a choice to grow, to learn, to become someone who is more open and empathetic.”
What Makes Us Different?
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All of our program offerings are virtual and take place over online video conferencing platforms (e.g. Zoom, Google Meet, Jane, etc.). This means that you can log in and access services from wherever you are located across the province or across the country.
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Not only do we believe that people can and do change, we also believe that the transformative change we are seeking is best facilitated in the community. People learn, grow, heal, and recover when they are able to stay connected to their families and community in a way that supports the safety of their victims and community safety. Our programs are not offered to individuals who are in custody because a carceral environment is rarely optimized for rehabilitation and healing.
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All of our services are covered under therapist-client confidentiality. If you have legal representation, you may be doubly covered under both therapist-client confidentiality and solicitor-client confidentiality. Please read our full statement regarding privacy and confidentiality, and its exceptions.
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If you have been charged with sexual offences and you know you are guilty, accessing treatment is the most important step you will take. Forensic psychotherapy helps you figure out what went wrong, what needs to change, how to make that change happen, and how to sustain your progress over time, so that no one else is victimized by you. You doing the right thing and getting help allows our society to be a safer place for everyone.
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Individuals can register and enroll in the forensic treatment program at any time throughout the calendar year.
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We do not condone bad behaviour. We do not condone violence. Participation in our program is not a “get out of jail free card”. However, we believe that real societal change and ending sexual violence require a compassionate approach that humanizes everyone involved.
Offenders participate in intensive programming that targets negative patterns of behaviour and interrogates problematic belief systems. Pushing back on these belief systems encourages participants to deconstruct inflated self-narratives that allow them to act entitled and wield power over their victims in profoundly harmful ways. By reconnecting them with empathy, specifically victim empathy, we reconnect them with their humanity, and vice versa.
Our approach is radically relational. We encourage connection, community, and collective awareness. We are dedicated to providing care and support that is compassionate and respectful while prioritizing victim empathy, acceptance of responsibility, lifelong accountability practices, and a commitment to creating a safer world for everyone.
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No treatment program can be complete without a thorough and thoughtful accountability process that supports long-term safety and mitigates the risk of recidivism. For example, clients are asked to identify the individuals who will comprise their Support and Accountability Team (SAT), and their SAT is involved in their process at every stage of their treatment journey in meaningful ways. When a client is approaching “graduation” from the program, their SAT is an integral part of this process. This is one example of how our inherently relational accountability practices enhance treatment outcomes and continued success long after their involvement in the program has ended.
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While many forensic programs focus solely on the index offence, our program begins with acceptance of responsibility, progresses to victim empathy, and culminates in accountability through a transformative justice lens. We meet each person with curiosity and compassion instead of shame, and we normalize the inherent discomfort that is an important part of doing the hard work to change.
Our approach incorporates a feminist perspective and addresses the role of patriarchy, sexism, and misogyny that is often entrenched in one’s offending behaviour. It includes a critical analysis of systems of power and privilege, the structures that reinforce them, and how patterns of offending behaviour uphold these problematic hierarchies.
“Prison ultimately causes a measurable, statistically significant increase in crime and violence; locking people in a system defined by these drivers of violence does, indeed, increase the likelihood that they will cause greater harm in the future. Imprisoning people doesn’t necessarily make our society safer.”
The Toronto Relationship Clinic offers a treatment program for sexual offending that is dedicated to providing compassionate and respectful care. Our focus is on promoting empathy for victims, encouraging acceptance of responsibility, and ensuring accountability. If you decide to seek support, rest assured that your privacy and confidentiality will be upheld in accordance with the highest ethical guidelines that govern all regulated mental health professionals.
Our approach to treating harmful sexual behaviours and problematic sexual urges, is recovery-oriented, strengths-based, and person-centred.
Let’s face it. No one wakes up one day and decides that today is the day they are going to commit a criminal offence. The root cause of most criminal behaviour happens long before an offence occurs. It often begins with negative childhood experiences, abuse, unresolved trauma, emotional pain, chronic stress, mental illness, or other unidentified and untreated organic factors. These negative experiences are often precipitated and perpetuated by problematic beliefs that uphold both individual and systemic oppression. These negative patterns become amplified over time if individuals do not have the desire, the capacity, or the strategies to effectively challenge or manage them.
It may surprise you how easily old patterns can change when we create the conditions for new, healthy patterns to emerge. Science tells us that the brain can change because of neuroplasticity. Toronto Relationship Clinic can help facilitate change by working with you to identify your strengths and areas for improvement. We can help you learn how to manage your old, negative behaviours by addressing root causes so that new and healthy patterns may emerge. You will learn how to identify the feelings and beliefs that are often precursors to offending behaviour. You will also learn how to identify and deconstruct your triggers, develop empathy, build accountability structures, and practice self-compassion in order to minimize the risk of re-offending.
“On the other side of that bridge, on the other side of transformation, is another more whole, more full, more free way of being, one that we can’t fully imagine from here. A way that we must simply bring into existence, step by step.”
What about pedophilia?
Research suggests that pedophilia may be a sexual orientation. If you struggle with pedophilia, the first step would be to talk to a professional who can support you as you work through feelings of guilt or shame, towards creating a life that is flourishing, full of joy, and safe.